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title: Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed
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| fetlife-session-persistence-figure-2-300x212.png | Kink On Tap: The smart sexuality netcast for the kinkily inclined. |
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Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed
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Re-Caste-ing Alternative Sexuality: A Class Analysis of Social Status in the BDSM Scene – Arse Elektronika 2011: Screw the System
Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine
Scaling the walls of FetLife’s walled garden (with new tools)
Backdoor access to your FetLife profile remained open permanently
On Letting The World Burn
SsexBbox: Gender is a text field
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Re-Caste-ing Alternative Sexuality: A Class Analysis of Social Status in the BDSM Scene – Arse Elektronika 2011: Screw the System
Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine
Scaling the walls of FetLife’s walled garden (with new tools)
Backdoor access to your FetLife profile remained open permanently
On Letting The World Burn
SsexBbox: Gender is a text field
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Better FetLife Userscript
FetLife Bridge StatusNet Plugin
How was this possible?
But FetLife says they’re secure!
Mitigation: How can FetLife fix this and what can I do to protect myself?
What can I do to help?
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internal links
| address | anchor text |
|---|---|
| / | Blog |
| http://maybemaimed.com/about/ | About |
| http://maybemaimed.com/cv/ | Things I’ve done |
| http://maybemaimed.com/seminars/ | Seminars |
| http://maybemaimed.com/about/comment-policy/ | Comment Policy |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/multi-media/my-videos/ | Videos |
| http://maybemaimed.com/where-im-censored/ | Locations where I’m censored |
| http://maybemaimed.com/playground/ | Playground |
| http://maybemaimed.com/ | Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/10/05/re-caste-ing-alternative-sexuality-a-class-analysis-of-social-status-in-the-bdsm-scene-arse-elektronika-2011-screw-the-system/ | Re-Caste-ing Alternative Sexuality: A Class Analysis of Social Status in the BDSM Scene – Arse Elektronika 2011: Screw the System |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/community/ | Community |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/multi-media/my-videos/ | My Videos |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/politics-of-sex/ | Politics of sex |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/10/05/re-caste-ing-alternative-sexuality-a-class-analysis-of-social-status-in-the-bdsm-scene-arse-elektronika-2011-screw-the-system/#comments | 9 Comments |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/10625497839/nothing-is-richer-or-finer-than-to-be-able-to | this quote by Antonio Negri |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/10859229709/i-dont-believe-that-off-the-shelf-sex-toys-or | I think |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/07/16/on-letting-the-world-burn/ | I wrote in a post very angry about this very topic |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/02/my-unreal-experience-on-the-kink-inc-armory-tour/ | he says that Kink was wonderful for him, the company, because he |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/10803380928/meet-m-and-d-your-prototypical-bdsm-cultures-effect | an example that I found really, really, really recently about people calling themselves D and M |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/BDSM-Scene-State-work-play-economy.png | |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/5286820121/all-of-the-guests-began-to-ascend-the-stairs | this example by Fleur De Li who wrote about her experience at a Kink, Inc. gangbang |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/1621511807/the-great-late-george-carlin-brilliantly-sums-up | nobody seems to notice, nobody seems to care |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/09/02/raging-chrysalis-the-end-of-the-mute-submissive-masculine/ | Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/emotions/ | Emotions |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/male-sexuality/ | Male sexuality |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/personal-experience/ | Personal experience |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/personal-history/ | Personal history |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/politics-of-sex/ | Politics of sex |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/09/02/raging-chrysalis-the-end-of-the-mute-submissive-masculine/#comments | 7 Comments |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/02/signal-boost-the-devaluation-of-male-submission/ | maymay’s drum |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/ | your KinkForAll Providence video |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/ | I have angrily (and, to some, offensively) stated years earlier |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6090438145/he-have-you-ever-considered-seeing-a | I don’t believe I could ever feel comfortable paying for sex or BDSM play |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/10/13/its-not-changing-the-world-thats-hard/ | What would you do after you’ve given up on having a sexually satisfied life? |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/19/story-of-how-to-improve-the-future-always-hate-the-status-quo/#comment-162576 | take it for granted—and understand why that is a good thing |
| http://maybemaimed.com/playground/malesubmissionartcom/praise/ | thank you for MaleSubmissionArt.com |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/08/08/scaling-the-walls-of-fetlife%e2%80%99s-walled-garden-with-new-tools/ | Scaling the walls of FetLife’s walled garden (with new tools) |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/technology/ | Technology |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/08/08/scaling-the-walls-of-fetlife%e2%80%99s-walled-garden-with-new-tools/#comments | 7 Comments |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/20/fetlife-considered-harmful/ | FetLife’s insulation away from the rest of the Internet is a serious problem |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/29/anti-censorship-best-practices-for-the-sex-positive-publisher-atlanta-poly-weekend-2011/ | I spoke about FetLife at the Atlanta Poly Weekend conference back in March |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/21/fetlife-fallout-the-best-and-the-worst-early-responses-to-fetlife-considered-harmful/#comment-127437 | to date FetLife seems at best disinclined and at worst actively hostile to the prospect of interoperating |
| #new-fetlife-tools | Both tools are showcased at the end of this post |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7701349500/if-speaking-up-means-breaking-the-rules-lets-fucking | if improving things means breaking The Rules, then I’ll fucking break them |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/08/08/backdoor-access-to-your-fetlife-profile-remained-open-permanently/ | FetLife had a persistent backdoor account access security problem |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/07/the-bus-driver-and-the-gadfly-what-my-activism-looks-like-at-bdsm-parties/ | changing the game |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/07/16/on-letting-the-world-burn/#replicant-offspring | Software isn’t so different from you and me |
| http://maybemaimed.com/playground/better-fetlife-userscript/ | Better FetLife Userscript |
| http://maybemaimed.com/playground/better-fetlife-userscript/ | Better FetLife Userscript |
| http://maybemaimed.com/playground/better-fetlife-userscript/#respond | leave a comment on the project page |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/4947613695/the-following-is-a-public-service-announcement-for | control where and when you want to see |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/fetlife-bridge-statusnet-plugin-account-settings.png | |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/24/open-thread-when-educators-are-censors/ | don’t let anyone say you can’t |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/12/08/what-sex-has-to-do-with-the-first-world-infowar-against-wikileaks/ | these walls |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/03/19/community-organizing-for-great-justice/ | we’re from the Internet. Just let ‘em try to fucking stop us |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/08/08/backdoor-access-to-your-fetlife-profile-remained-open-permanently/ | Backdoor access to your FetLife profile remained open permanently |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/technology/ | Technology |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/08/08/backdoor-access-to-your-fetlife-profile-remained-open-permanently/#comments | 21 Comments |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/fetlife-persistent-session-concern-laymen.mov | Watch a .mov video of the unmitigated issue as it existed in June 2011 |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/fetlife-persistent-session-concern-laymen.txt | text transcript of the voiceover |
| #email-conversation-with-fetlife | My email conversation with FetLife |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/4817305405/rather-unexpectedly-i-found-this-on-scribd | more accurately, BitLove, Inc., formerly Protose Inc. |
| #plain-english-summary | plain-English summary |
| #technical-details | Technical Details |
| editorial | Editorial |
| http://maybemaimed.com/?p=3315 | insofar as it is appropriate to have those walls, anyway… |
| mailto:privacy@fetlife.com?subject=I%27m%20concerned%20FetLife%20users%27%20security%20and%20privacy%20is%20not%20prioritized&body=Dear%20FetLife%20team%2C%0D%0DI%20am%20concerned%20about%20what%20I%20feel%20is%20a%20lack%20of%20focus%20and%20attention%20paid%20to%20FetLife%20users%27%20security%20and%20privacy.%20Recently%2C%20I%20was%20made%20aware%20that%20there%20were%20no%20significant%20protections%20for%20users%27%20accounts%20and%20that%20accounts%20could%20have%20easily%20been%20hijacked%20by%20malicious%20users.%20While%20I%20do%20understand%20that%20you%20have%20taken%20steps%20to%20mitigate%20the%20issue%2C%20such%20a%20blatant%20oversight%20by%20a%20company%20that%20continually%20touts%20its%20users%27%20privacy%20as%20a%20top%20priority%20seems%20negligent.%0D%0DInstead%20of%20focusing%20on%20improving%20FetLife%27s%20feature%20set%2C%20why%20not%20spend%20more%20time%20and%20energy%20improving%20the%20service%27s%20security%20measures%20and%20implementing%20more%20granular%20privacy%20controls%3F%20These%20are%20also%20features%20your%20privacy-conscious%20user%20base%20would%20be%20thrilled%20to%20hear%20about.%0D%0DSincerely%2C%0D%5BYOUR%20NAME%20HERE%5D&cc=bitetheappleback@gmail.com | Write to privacy@fetlife.com and complain |
| http://maybemaimed.com/?p=3315 | improving FetLife’s interoperability more generally |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/5845581379/the-following-is-a-public-service-announcement-for | republish |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/fetlife-session-persistence-figure-1.png | Screenshot of Firebug observing a FetLife.com page load. |
| #footnote_1_3302 | 2 |
| #footnote_2_3302 | 3 |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/fetlife-session-persistence-figure-2.png | Screenshot of FetLife home page with Edit This Cookie extension for Chrome. |
| #mitigation | the mitigation section of this post |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/05/19/edenfantasyss-unethical-technology-is-a-self-referential-black-hole/ | shame on those who mislead you |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/20/fetlife-considered-harmful/ | described how FetLife’s lack of granular privacy controls |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/07/29/anti-porn-is-pro-censorship-even-if-they-say-theyre-not/ | like, say, Facebook |
| #footnote_3_3302 | 4 |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/30/ssexbbox-gender-is-a-text-field/ | I’m bothered by Facebook generally |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6400599297/wwmca-buttons-created-by-sunshine-gypsy-what | ask yourself |
| http://maybemaimed.com/tmp/fetlife-cookie-expiry-tests.mov | http://maybemaimed.com/tmp/fetlife-cookie-expiry-tests.mov |
| #identifier_0_3302 | ↩ |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/fetlife.js | Here it is |
| #identifier_1_3302 | ↩ |
| #identifier_2_3302 | ↩ |
| #identifier_3_3302 | ↩ |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/07/16/on-letting-the-world-burn/ | On Letting The World Burn |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/community/ | Community |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/emotions/ | Emotions |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/personal-experience/ | Personal experience |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/07/16/on-letting-the-world-burn/#comments | 29 Comments |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/02/my-unreal-experience-on-the-kink-inc-armory-tour/ | my “unreal” experiences at the Kink, Inc. Armory |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/02/my-unreal-experience-on-the-kink-inc-armory-tour/#comment-146811 | comment reading simply, “Thoroughly predictable,” was left by someone |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/maymay-is-a-douchebag-and-heres-why-Fistandantiluss-Writing-FetLife.html | full page HTML, archived here |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/maymay-is-a-douchebag-and-heres-why-Fistandantiluss-Writing-FetLife.png | several |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/maymay-is-a-douchebag-and-heres-why-Fistandantiluss-Writing-FetLife-2.png | screenshots |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/maymay%20is%20a%20douchebag%20and%20heres%20why%20-%20Fistandantiluss%20Writing%20-%20FetLife.webarchive | a .webarchive for Safari users |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/04/02/stand-against-stigma/ | there exists more strength in my greatest vulnerability than exists in your most powerful outburst |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/3580615781/photographers-on-fetlife-and-their-precious | I do gain a certain satisfaction from such encounters |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/01/13/what-porn-companies-can-learn-from-the-giffords-shooting/ | poisons in the air |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/10/13/its-not-changing-the-world-thats-hard/ | what I’ve come to call the Work |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7042538776/you-have-a-magic-others-dont-use-it | emails like this |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6400599297/wwmca-buttons-created-by-sunshine-gypsy-what | A lot |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7170537624/fat-is-fabulous-dont-take-my-word-for-it-ask-a-guy | another thing I wanted to write |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/4740033494/in-contemporary-america-happiness-is-what-you | Heroes make me happy |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/29/anti-censorship-best-practices-for-the-sex-positive-publisher-atlanta-poly-weekend-2011/ | a kind of idea-sex in which hyperlinks are sex toys |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/19/story-of-how-to-improve-the-future-always-hate-the-status-quo/ | I am the illegitimate offspring of The Scene |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2009/03/23/kinkforall-and-the-evolution-of-sexuality-communities/ | the literary telepathic non-magic of the Internet threatens them both |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/07/24/what-will-it-take-for-the-silent-majority-to-speak-up/ | simultaneously everywhere and invisible |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/5239965487/ive-always-had-a-problem-with-the-whole | fluctuates along multiple spectra in ways that do not conform to gender role stereotypes |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/10/28/my-beautiful-kind-profile-sex-like-a-bright-candle-has-no-innate-morality/ | his kink is necessarily queer |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/5946448134/the-difference-between-categorical-and | (specifically categorical) privilege |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/07/the-bus-driver-and-the-gadfly-what-my-activism-looks-like-at-bdsm-parties/ | I’ve been documenting entrances |
| http://maybemaimed.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/P1010001.jpg | |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/21/i-want-to-be-a-pretty-boy/ | I don’t even know how to be |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/03/31/whips-and-chains-may-break-my-bones-but-words-will-always-hurt-more/ | by my own history |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/31/good-boy-and-other-kinds-of-complicated-sex/ | privileged shits |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/07/30/there-is-so-little-space-for-me/ | cornucopia of sex they inhabit |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7222621647/via-mind-to-media-the-dangers-of-sappiness | lovers |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7245985023/good-awkwardness-at-sti-screening | new |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7041813168/im-used-to-unfair-and-painful-but-i-had-for | I know others would love to have it |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/07/the-bus-driver-and-the-gadfly-what-my-activism-looks-like-at-bdsm-parties/#comment-164962 | FeministSub asked me a poignant question |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2009/06/02/why-malesubmissionartcom-doesnt-have-comments/ | if there is enough fire |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/07/16/dont-be-nice/ | reconciling paradoxes |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/31/good-boy-and-other-kinds-of-complicated-sex/ | it’s self-delusional |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6436018453/when-sex-positive-is-a-euphemism-for-male-gaze | Wicked Grounds, or a munch, or a party |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7137477514/t-he-research-seems-to-indicate-that-more-kinky | if the only available patterns for kink emphasize something a person doesn’t like, then that person will probably avoid kink |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/30/ssexbbox-gender-is-a-text-field/ | SsexBbox: Gender is a text field |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/gender-fluidity/ | Gender fluidity |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/technology/ | Technology |
| http://maybemaimed.com/label/writing-and-blogging/ | Writing and blogging |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/30/ssexbbox-gender-is-a-text-field/#comments | 6 Comments |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/02/26/march-events-and-a-segment-on-sexploration-with-monika/ | I met sexuality documentary filmmaker Priscilla Bertucci back in March |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/03/29/anti-censorship-best-practices-for-the-sex-positive-publisher-atlanta-poly-weekend-2011/ | the intersection of gender, sexuality and technology |
| http://maybemaimed.com/about/ | maymay |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/ | binary coarseness |
| http://maybemaimed.com/cv/ | maybemaimed.com/cv |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/5845581379/the-following-is-a-public-service-announcement-for | As usual, please feel free to republish this article at your whim |
| http://maybemaimed.com/page/2/ | ← Older Entries |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/19/story-of-how-to-improve-the-future-always-hate-the-status-quo/ | I am angry |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6436018453/when-sex-positive-is-a-euphemism-for-male-gaze | Everywhere I look in public |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7042538776/you-have-a-magic-others-dont-use-it | different discussions happening than everywhere I look in private |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/6669441133/as-a-woman-who-cannot-imagine-feeling-anything-but-awe | it rarely receives public acknowledgement |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/05/02/my-unreal-experience-on-the-kink-inc-armory-tour/#comment-156190 | I lash out in barely-restrained anger at people I ought not |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/04/20/we-are-all-victims-even-the-revolutionaries/ | as sick a world as ours |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/11/26/while-fucking-i-prefer-to-get-fucked/ | fuck the way I want |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7245985023/good-awkwardness-at-sti-screening | that reality |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2010/10/13/its-not-changing-the-world-thats-hard/ | I feel as though I was the creepy old guy before he was either creepy or old |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2011/06/02/signal-boost-the-devaluation-of-male-submission/ | I was hurting |
| http://maybemaimed.com/2007/11/15/the-closet-and-the-importance-of-others/ | the community where I felt most at home |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7137477514/t-he-research-seems-to-indicate-that-more-kinky | the same one that made me feel the most unattractive |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/7041813168/im-used-to-unfair-and-painful-but-i-had-for | more I’m told to “count my blessings,” the angrier I get |
| http://days.maybemaimed.com/post/4714863852/help-me-desimplify-deconstruct-rape-and-sex | we can do better |
| http://maybemaimed.com/ | maymay |
| http://maybemaimed.com/feed/ | RSS → Entries |
| http://maybemaimed.com/comments/feed/ | RSS → Comments |
external links
| address | anchor text |
|---|---|
| http://monochrom.at/arse-elektronika/ | Arse Elektronika |
| http://status.maymay.net/tag/arse2011 | I was posting updates through most of the conference with the #Arse2011 hashtag |
| http://monochrom.at/ | Monochrom |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Max_Weber | Max Weber |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Three-component_theory_of_stratification | three component-theory of stratification |
| http://www.toymakerproject.com/articles/4/what-is-technological-empowerment | She said |
| http://wesscholar.wesleyan.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1045&context=div2facpubs | Working at Play: BDSM Sexuality in the San Francisco Bay Area |
| http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/05/02/domism-role-essentialism-and-sexism-intersectionality-in-the-bdsm-scene/ | domism |
| http://kinkontap.com/?p=1803 | Playing on the Edge |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/ | MaleSubmissionArt.com |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/60704762/this-relatively-tame-photo-of-a-young-couple-in | here’s a picture that I posted on it |
| http://ahumliatedhusband-com.tumblr.com/post/10163935242/silly-boy-i-may-let-you-serve-me-but-ill-never | here’s what someone else said |
| http://adelehaze.com/kink-virginity-and-big-tittied-whores/ | a great post by Adele Haze talking about Kink, Inc.’s marketing phraseology |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/06/20/wheelchair-worship/ | Pictures like this: Wheelchair Worship |
| http://www.ahaprocess.com/store/more/excerpts/book_Framework.pdf | Ruby K. Payne wrote—”A Framework for Understanding Poverty” |
| http://status.maymay.net/notice/25689 | one needs solitude and quiet to think, says Chris Hedges |
| http://www.smbc-comics.com/?id=2381 | this |
| http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2011/09/24/under-served-or-under-accessed/ | borrow from Alisa, actually, when she says |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Food_desert | Food deserts |
| http://sex.sagepub.com/content/12/2/181.abstract | “Perverting Visual Pleasure: Representing Sadomasochism,” Eleanor Wilksinson wrote on what she calls the “Paradox of Visibility.” |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Story_of_O | Story of O |
| http://ludic.us/ | Ludic circle |
| http://www.ethannonsequitur.com/facebook-you-customer-product-pigs.html | reminds me of Facebook. Like, really like Facebook. Like, that Facebook |
| https://fetlife.com/users/60193/posts/119764 | here’s an entry from someone who discussed someone who entered the SF Citadel not just sort of drunk but shit-faced drunk, staggering drunk |
| http://status.maymay.net/notice/19674 | All rules about sex police class as well as sex |
| https://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266#post_comment_1560669 | August Knight was at first very concerned |
| https://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266 | a post that was posted on FetLife |
| https://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266#post_comment_1560786 | Peter Ackworth responds, very placatingly |
| https://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266#post_comment_1564786 | [August's] next take ends with |
| https://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266#post_comment_1907733 | my sense on all this |
| http://www.africa.upenn.edu/Articles_Gen/Letter_Birmingham.html | this quote by Martin Luther King |
| http://seanan-mcguire.livejournal.com/390067.html | “Print is dead,” which is the same as saying “Poor people don’t deserve to read.” |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/118860415001309184 | refusal to participate in the public BDSM Scene is tantamount to the heresy of rejecting a consumerism in which play is this kind of labour-capital |
| http://books.google.com/books/about/The_Lorax.html?id=cJnXmrk7BxAC | Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, it’s not going to get better. It’s not. |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Thomas_Paine | Thomas Paine |
| http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2011/09/01/lacking-a-better-outlet-at-4am-ill-say-it-here/ | Kink, in exile |
| http://galianachance.com/blog/2011/09/01/in-celebration-of-the-male-submissive/ | Galiana Chance |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/109080705983721472 | @maymaym |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/ | MaleSubmissionArt.com |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/ | this incredibly well-written piece discussing how often members of the BDSM scene devalue male submissives, even while valuing female dominants |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/ | Professor Chaos |
| http://dishevelleddomina.wordpress.com/2011/07/19/index-and-overview-of-the-subguys-interviews/ | real people with feelings of their own |
| http://purrversatility.blogspot.com/2011/06/value-of-male-submissive.html | their dominant partners cherish them |
| https://twitter.com/TomioBlack/status/109058845233516544 | Tomio Black said |
| https://twitter.com/search/%23malesubmission | MaleSubmission |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/ | Chaos’s words |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/07/18/doms-dont-cry/ | That’s how I feel sometimes as a femme dom in the public scene: they see me, but not my desires |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/#comment-1135 | a comment on Chaos’s post, I plaintively said |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/#comment-1178 | Galiana offers some |
| http://titsandsass.com/?p=3942 | now, I do better understand its undeniably legitimate value |
| https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10150760846535005 | performing at a Polyamory Fashion Show |
| http://www.sexpositiveculture.org/ | The Center for Sex Positive Culture |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Susan_B._Anthony | Susan B. Anthony |
| http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2011/09/01/what-she-said/ | Kink In Exile wrote |
| http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2011/09/03/bearing-witness/ | this burgeoning conversation |
| http://www.notjustbitchy.com/?p=169#comment-292 | keep going |
| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pw1xqxsJ0nw | Evan Greer |
| http://fetlife.com/ | FetLife |
| http://www.codinghorror.com/blog/2007/06/avoiding-walled-gardens-on-the-internet.html | Jeff Atwood’s words |
| http://fetlife.com/fetlife/tou | FetLife’s Terms of Use |
| https://twitter.com/JohnBaku | John Baku’s own Twitter bio |
| http://books.google.com/books?id=HTtFEKPBtcsC&lpg=PA14&ots=DNQzSxAqT1&dq=why%20giving%20the%20user%20control%20is%20not%20giving%20up&pg=PA14#v=onepage&q=why%20giving%20the%20user%20control%20is%20not%20giving%20up&f=false | the principles on which the Internet and the Web were designed |
| http://stfufetish.tumblr.com/ | fuck The Powers That Be |
| http://status.maymay.net/notice/22378 | their Terms |
| https://github.com/meitar/fetlife-bridge/ | FetLife Bridge StatusNet plugin |
| http://status.net/ | StatusNet |
| http://lifehacker.com/207029/practice-your-personal-kaizen | kaizen |
| http://www.creativethinkingwith.com/Incremental-Creativity.html | CANI |
| http://www.catb.org/~esr/writings/homesteading/cathedral-bazaar/ar01s04.html | all that jazz |
| http://www.google.com/googlecalendar/about.html | Google Calendar |
| http://calendar.yahoo.com/ | Yahoo! Calendar |
| http://www.apple.com/support/ical/ | Apple iCal |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/VCard | vCard |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/MetaWeblog | MetaWeblog API |
| http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/105867 | project’s UserScripts.org page |
| http://www.tumblr.com/goodies | use the “Share on Tumblr” bookmarklet |
| http://codex.wordpress.org/Press_This | PressThis! bookmarklet for WordPress |
| http://fetlife.com/users/1254 | me on FetLife |
| http://gitorious.org/statusnet | an open source Twitter clone called StatusNet |
| https://github.com/meitar/fetlife-bridge/ | FetLife Bridge StatusNet Plugin |
| http://status.net/wiki/Installation | host your own StatusNet installation |
| http://status.net/wiki/Foreign_service | StatusNet’s Foreign service class |
| http://kinkontap.com/?page_id=344 | subsidizing me for doing any of this |
| https://github.com/meitar/fetlife-bridge/downloads | Download |
| http://status.net/open-source/add-ons/plugins | other StatusNet plugins |
| http://activitystrea.ms/ | ActivityStream |
| http://www.graphviz.org/ | GraphViz |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Six_degrees_of_separation | six degrees of separation |
| http://www.allthelyrics.com/lyrics/evan_greer/i_want_something-lyrics-1269210.html | I’m not sure exactly what it is, but I think that we could build it if we try together |
| http://www.bondagescouts.org/2011/08/Announcing-FL2GC | FetLife2GCal |
| https://twitter.com/stefanknotts/status/109113303443324928 | Stefan Knotts |
| http://hca.gilead.org.il/emperor.html | the emperor has no clothes |
| https://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1662870 | FetLife announced its SSL support was in the works |
| https://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1676205 | began rolling out site-wide SSL, beginning with paid subscribers (“supporters”) yesterday |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/103417001388687360 | also turned on the feature for my own account early |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/103784807762374656 | I noticed the remainder of my various (non-paid) test accounts also got switched to SSL |
| http://www.allaboutcookies.org/cookies/session-cookies-used-for.html | session cookie |
| http://fetlife.com/fetlife/privacy | FetLife says they “use SSL to login to FetLife,” |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Defense_in_depth_(computing) | defense in depth |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Transport_Layer_Security | SSL |
| http://blog.eset.com/2010/11/09/cookie-theft-sidejacking-or-session-hijacking-for-normal-people | This is also called “SSL-only browsing” and has long been recommended to be enabled by default for everyone |
| http://fetlife.com/retrieve_login_information | FetLife’s “Forgot your login information?” |
| http://mail.google.com/support/bin/answer.py?answer=45938 | Last account activity by Google |
| http://oauth.net | OAuth |
| http://www.techalphabet.com/archives/2000 | Single-Use Codes in Hotmail |
| http://fetlife.com/fetlife/privacy | FetLife says on its privacy page |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Base64 | Base64- |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Percent-encoding | URL-encoded |
| http://rubyonrails.org/ | Ruby on Rails |
| http://codebutler.com/firesheep | Firesheep |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Man-in-the-middle_attack | other |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Cross-site_scripting | attack |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Phishing | vectors |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/CSRF | exist |
| https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/fngmhnnpilhplaeedifhccceomclgfbg | Edit This Cookie |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Replay_attack | replay attacks |
| http://www.ruby-forum.com/topic/102147#224307 | was discussed way back in 2007 |
| http://guides.rubyonrails.org/security.html#replay-attacks-for-cookiestore-sessions | §2.6 of the Ruby on Rails Security Guide |
| https://www.digitalsociety.org/2010/11/online-services-security-report-card | the importance of all this was brutally demonstrated more than 6 months ago |
| http://kinkontap.com/?p=275 | Facebook’s users, among whom only the clearly deluded have any trust |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1531152 | FetLife is continuing |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1583101 | new features |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1640043 | pumping them out |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1606705 | crazy |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1494016 | starting to roll out the ability to upload pics via email from your phone to your FetLife profile |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1508942 | 100% of People Have the Ability to Upload Pics via Email |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/311/group_posts/1606705#group_comment_18119666 | wonder whether or not their users’ privacy and security are being taken as seriously |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/78606979047763968 | I asked the FetLife crew if they were planning on implementing SSL-only browsing |
| https://twitter.com/jamesgolick/statuses/78608803108630528 | James Golick, responded |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/78609217535221760 | I asked if security was a priority for them |
| https://twitter.com/jamesgolick/statuses/78611275625676800 | James responded affirmatively again |
| http://jamesgolick.com/2011/2/15/verify-none..html | James found himself in a similar situation to the one I feel like I’m in now |
| https://twitter.com/jamesgolick/status/323987540283392 | James reminds his Twitter followers |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/w/index.php?title=FetLife&oldid=442826530#History | claims |
| http://purrversatility.blogspot.com/2011/07/i-wish-i-could-safeword-rape-culture.html | limit some of its search functionality |
| http://houseofvoid.com/2010/08/13/fetlife-a-new-users-guide-part-1/ | prevent that behavior |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/99593040393551872 | FetLife is not a community. FetLife is a business. |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/HMAC | Wikipedia’s article on HMACs |
| https://github.com/codebutler/firesheep/wiki/Writing-Handlers | writing a working Firesheep handler |
| http://www.ietf.org/mail-archive/web/http-state/current/msg00447.html | IE won’t honor host-only cookies |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/HTTP_cookie#Publishing_false_sub-domain_.E2.80.93_DNS_cache_poisoning | vulnerable to a poisoned DNS cache |
| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsSkcnIFCxM | more vulnerable to “cookie jacking” via UI redressing attacks |
| http://twitter.theinfo.org/78611275625676800 | View the whole Twitter conversation on one page |
| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=edAxujKev1I | Great Big Sea |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/ | my other one |
| http://fetlife.com/users/117766 | his FetLife profile |
| http://fetlife.com/users/117766/posts/611244 | the post was deleted |
| http://ostracism-awareness.com/ | another perfect illustration of the very poison |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/89130172808310785 | who’ve tried to intimidate me |
| http://foucault.info/documents/parrhesia/foucault.DT1.wordParrhesia.en.html | parrhesiastic |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/17287/group_posts/1284964#group_comment_17014894 | a bare minimum of care |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/91275915702702081 | The Scene, a far too unctuous and aristocratic environment both, is an abuser |
| http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/06/24/a-socratic-gadfly-on-public-deviance/ | I’m getting copied |
| http://afemanistview.blogspot.com/2011/02/one-of-critical-things-that-define-man.html | Kind |
| http://androaperture.wordpress.com/2011/06/20/link-love-inspirations/ | all over |
| http://purrversatility.blogspot.com/2011/06/curvy-perv-in-straight-straight-world.html | place |
| http://pasthurt.wordpress.com/2011/04/08/kinking-on-ejaculation-or-the-uncontrollable-male-desire/ | places |
| http://dickgirldiscourse.blogspot.com/2010/11/futanari-proper-introduction.html | didn’t even know |
| http://www.leatheryenta.com/2011/06/08/maymays-bdsm-presenter-bingo/ | Places |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/64108579346583552 | don’t even have the mental equipment to access |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/90655953594224640 | a young person introduced herself to me |
| http://www.notjustbitchy.com/?p=59 | Stabbity is writing great rants |
| http://bitchyjones.com/ | sorely-missed Bitchy Jones |
| http://delvingintodeviance.wordpress.com/2011/06/03/the-devaluation-of-male-submission/ | Dev’s significant piece on the topic of devaluing male submission |
| http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/306599/ | discussions about it |
| http://purrversatility.blogspot.com/2011/06/value-of-male-submissive.html | flourished |
| http://submissiveproud.blogspot.com/2011/06/devoted-and-devalued.html | look-alike venues whose rhetoric I despise |
| http://dishevelleddomina.wordpress.com/2011/07/11/interview-16/ | a whole interview series with submissive men in which the issue is a recurring theme |
| http://subtleworship.tumblr.com/ | whole new blogs with the premise |
| http://that-freshness.blogspot.com/2011/04/too-much-informationor-maybe-just.html | sprouting |
| http://www.stanford.edu/dept/HPS/Haraway/CyborgManifesto.html | Donna Haraway wrote |
| http://www.chicst.ucsb.edu/faculty/staff/sandoval.shtml | Chela Sandoval |
| http://femalearrogance.wordpress.com/2009/12/27/kinky-sex-for-social-justice/ | The Scene’s “revolutionary authorial” categories are overwhelmingly “submissive women” |
| http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/05/02/domism-role-essentialism-and-sexism-intersectionality-in-the-bdsm-scene/ | its “privileged” categories are overwhelmingly “dominant men” |
| http://status.maymay.net/notice/22345 | my own space |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/90685360799105024 | volatile |
| http://fetlife.com/users/1254/statuses/2501198 | hostile arenas |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/5989733039/a-secret-shared-via-submissive-secrets-a | some contexts |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/7289051309/a-very-old-man-closes-his-eyes-as-a-tag-and | its absence in others |
| http://opensourcebridge.org/blog/2011/06/wrapping-up-2011/ | I visited Portland to volunteer for a tech conference |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/63627789/a-man-wearing-ripped-clothes-stands-against-a | I want so much more than this momentary banality but this is all I get |
| http://fetlife.com/users/322763/posts/642937 | on FetLife’s Kinky & Popular feed |
| http://fetlife.com/groups/34227/group_posts/1523683#group_comment_17081035 | belittle |
| http://beyondthehills.wordpress.com/2009/02/20/gender-and-markers-and%E2%80%93-hmm-i-dont-actually-have-a-third-item/ | access to a symbology for signaling |
| http://status.maymay.net/notice/22278 | I can’t express submissiveness for fear of signaling meekness |
| http://hugoschwyzer.net/2010/10/01/clarisse-thorn-on-the-pathologizing-of-male-desire/ | desirous for fear of signaling aggression |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/117950548/a-man-whose-wrists-are-handcuffed-behind-his-back | who I am |
| http://maymay.net/blog/2011/06/20/and-so-she-was-beautiful-to-me/ | scared to admit the extent of my true feelings |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/86271300942831616 | governances obsessed with power |
| http://fetlife.com/users/289850/posts/520266 | Scene-State is fundamentally callous |
| http://fetlife.com/users/1254/statuses/2500993 | not immune to the toxins in general society, it amplifies them |
| http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2010/06/14/sex-communication-tactic-derived-from-sm-1-checklists/ | the source |
| http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist | antiserums for general society |
| http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/01/10/looking-for-bdsm-outside-the-clubs/ | I know there are many of you out there, somewhere |
| http://www.amandapalmer.net/thetruth/ | I’ve already spent too much time doing things I didn’t want to |
| http://www.flickr.com/photos/maymay/tags/me/ | I’ll |
| https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=218963088148749 | Golden Gate Park, at the big lawn in front of the Conservatory of Flowers on Sunday, August 7th, around 3:30 PM |
| http://ssexbbox.com/ | SsexBbox |
| http://ssexbboxmagazine.blogspot.com/ | SsexBbox’s new mini-blog/online magazine |
| http://ssexbboxmagazine.blogspot.com/2011/06/lovemonsters-party-guide-to-pride.html | its other intriguing contributions |
| http://davidomckay.byuh.edu/mckaylectures/1977_Pack | Gertrude Wyatt once remarked |
| http://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html | Kathryn Shulz said |
| http://www.ted.com/talks/kevin_kelly_on_how_technology_evolves.html | technology itself mimics its creator |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/w/index.php?title=ISO_5218&oldid=421511096 | Information technology — Codes for the representation of human sexes |
| http://www.kreativekorp.com/miscpages/gender/gender.pl | Yay! Genderform |
| http://maymay.net/blog/2009/01/22/gender-and-technology-at-ignitesydney-with-presentation-slides/ | words we use to communicate are the tools with which we teach each other—and our software—about ourselves |
| http://qntm.org/gay | technically inaccurate world views |
| https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/w/index.php?title=Robustness_principle&oldid=420526504 | Internet pioneer Jon Postel’s Law |
| http://www.friendsofed.com/book.html?isbn=9781430209911 | Foundation Website Creation |
| http://www.friendsofed.com/book.html?isbn=1430219327 | AdvancED CSS |
| http://kinkforall.org/ | KinkForAll.org |
| http://kinkontap.com/ | KinkOnTap.com |
| http://kinkontap.com/ | Kink On Tap: The smart sexuality netcast for the kinkily inclined. |
| http://kinkontap.com/ | Kink On Tap |
| https://www.eff.org/pages/say-no-to-online-censorship | img |
| http://www.dopplr.com/traveller/meitar/feed/mytrips/907c1ed3ee57949386ecc7dd7527e0c0aae063548ab4406597cde892f35b2d32 | RSS |
| http://www.dopplr.com/traveller/meitar | Where I’ll Be |
| http://www.dopplr.com/trip/meitar/1449578 | Springfield, MA, United States |
| http://www.dopplr.com/trip/meitar/1476921 | New York, NY, United States |
| http://www.dopplr.com/trip/meitar/1472607 | Baltimore, MD, United States |
| http://www.dopplr.com/trip/meitar/1472606 | Washington, DC, United States |
| http://twitter.com/painbynumber | painbynumber |
| http://t.co/n9cjLYxu | http://t.co/n9cjLYxu |
| http://twitter.com/painbynumber/statuses/124495624270913536 | in reply to painbynumber |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/124528691563855873 | 18 hrs ago |
| http://t.co/abhSfiJe | http://t.co/abhSfiJe |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/124515233531314178 | 19 hrs ago |
| http://search.twitter.com/search?q=%23sleep | sleep |
| http://search.twitter.com/search?q=%23travel | travel |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/124457168924704768 | 23 hrs ago |
| http://t.co/68wbDcBp | http://t.co/68wbDcBp |
| http://twitter.com/zelamish | zelamish |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/124452259454140416 | 23 hrs ago |
| http://twitter.com/KinkInExile | KinkInExile |
| http://twitter.com/KinkInExile/statuses/124319874133659648 | in reply to KinkInExile |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/124321598739202048 | 1 day ago |
| http://twitter.com/maymaym | More updates... |
| http://kinkontap.com/community/links/feed/ | RSS |
| http://pipes.yahoo.com/pipes/pipe.info?_id=0a279abca3d8347533e6457f0dbc2b9f | Kink On Tap Community Links Feed |
| http://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10150351988212943&id=155669487942 | Untitled |
| http://dlvr.it/q8v2l | #BDSM versus #Sex: Divide & Conquer — @ClarisseThorn at @Feministe: "this weird ongoing debate about what 'qualifies'" |
| http://dlvr.it/pwxGG | The price of oppressing your #women is your country's continued plight of #poverty. Do the math—if you have the balls! |
| http://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10150349521457943&id=155669487942 | Untitled |
| http://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10150349511117943&id=155669487942 | Untitled |
| http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lnw618Zhrb1qzs83zo1_500.jpg | photo from Tumblr |
| http://maymay.net/blog/2011/06/20/and-so-she-was-beautiful-to-me/ | I am afraid |
| http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/what-is-catastrophizing/ | catastrophizing |
| http://333images.tumblr.com/post/4863703532 | These comments |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/5989733039/a-secret-shared-via-submissive-secrets-a | It should be called epistemic abuse |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/status/87801400960106496 | I am diffident |
| https://twitter.com/maymaym/statuses/85581992439197696 | some of us are so love- and touch-starved |
| http://malesubmissionart.com/post/7289051309 | 07/06/11 |
| http://wiki.KinkForAll.org/KinkForAll | |
| http://wiki.KinkForAll.org/KinkForAll | KinkForAll |
| http://wiki.KinkForAll.org/HowToParticipate | participate |
| http://janesguide.com/general/viewlisting.php?reviewid=12018 | Jane says we |
| http://wordpress.org/ | WordPress |
| http://www.benoitburgener.com | Beno |
| http://www.my-tapestry.com | My Tapestry |
| http://maymay.net | by maymay |
| http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/3.0/ | CC BY-NC-ND |